How to Use Family Sharing to Monitor Your Child’s iPhone

By | March 4, 2022

You may not realize it, but there are plenty of parental control options on your iPhone or iPad. They make it easy to keep your kids safe and monitor how they use their devices. Most of these controls are connected to Family Sharing, which means you can use your own iPhone or iPad to edit restrictions or allow purchases for your child.

Here’s a complete guide to setting up and monitoring parental controls on your child’s iPhone or iPad using Family Sharing from your own device.

Create a Family Sharing Group

Before you set up parental controls, we recommend creating a Family Sharing group with you and your children in it. Family Sharing lets you share iTunes and App Store purchases, iCloud storage, and subscriptions to Apple Music or TV channels.

But you can also use Family Sharing to approve or deny your children’s purchases, monitor their screen time, limit adult content, or track their location. The great thing about Family Sharing is that you can do all this remotely from your own iPhone, iPad, or Mac.

To create a Family Sharing group:

  • Open the app Settings on your iPhone or iPad and tap [Nama Anda] at the top of the screen. Choose for Set Up Family Sharing if you haven’t already.
  • Follow the on-screen instructions to add a payment method, invite family members, and activate the Family Sharing feature.
  • After creating a group, tap Add Family Member to invite more people to your Family Sharing group, up to a total of six people.
  • Or, ask the Family Manager of an existing Family Sharing group to add you to their group.

Creating a Child Account

Family members can only join your Family Sharing group if they have an Apple ID. If your child is under 13, you’ll need to create a Kids account to use, because Apple doesn’t let them create their own.

The Child’s account must be linked to the Family Sharing group until the child is 13 years old, at which point they can choose to leave the group.

To create a Kids account for Family Sharing:

  • Open the app Settings on your iPhone or iPad and go to [Nama Anda]> Family Sharing.
  • Tap Add Family Member and choose for Create a Child Account. Then follow the onscreen instructions to create an Apple ID for your child.
  • After creating an account, use the email address and password you created to sign in to that account on your child’s iPhone or iPad.

Assigning a Parent or Guardian

If there are multiple adults (over 18 years) in your Family Sharing group, you may want to assign some of them to act as Parents/Guardians for the children in the group.

Parents/Guardians can monitor Screen Time, adjust Content & Privacy Restrictions, and approve or deny App Store and iTunes purchases for your child’s device.

To make someone a Parent/Guardian in your Family Sharing group:

  • Open the app Settings on your iPhone or iPad and go to [Nama Anda]> Family Sharing.
  • Tap on the name of an adult family member and turn on the option Parent/Guardian.

Approve Download With Ask To Buy

Ask to Buy sends a notification to all of your Apple devices whenever your child tries to download content from iTunes or the App Store. You can then tap Get or Decline in this notification to choose whether they will download the media or not.

This is a good way to avoid unexpected iTunes charges because every purchase they make comes from the Family Organizer payment method. It’s also an easy way to avoid letting your kids download apps, songs, movies, TV shows, or books that you don’t want, because they’ll have to ask permission first.

Requests to Buy apply to both free downloads and paid purchases. So your child always needs your permission before taking new apps.

Apple turns on Ask to Buy automatically when you create a Kids account. But you can also turn it on or off for anyone under 18 in your Family Sharing settings:

  • Open the app Settings and go to [Nama Anda]> Family Sharing.
  • Tap a family member’s name and toggle options Ask to Buy.
  • When you receive a request notification, tap to view the app or media your child wants to download.

Add Gift Card Balance to Your Child’s Account

When you approve a purchase for your child, Apple collects payment from Family Organizer’s primary payment method. If you don’t want this to happen, you’ll need to purchase an iTunes or App Store gift card and add the balance to your child’s account.

Any future purchases you approve will go out of your child’s Apple ID balance. When it’s all gone, the payment goes back to the Family Organizer payment method.

Monitor Your Child’s Screen Time

Screen Time collects a variety of data to show how much someone has used their Apple device, along with which apps they spend their time on. With Family Sharing, you can monitor your kids’ Screen Time remotely and set boundaries so they don’t spend too much time on their iPhone or iPad.

To turn on Screen Time for your child’s device:

  • open Settings on your iPhone or iPad and go to [Nama Anda]> Family Sharing.
  • Tap Screen Time, then tap your child’s name and choose to Turn On Screen Time.

When you enable Screen Time for your child, it prompts you to set Downtime, App Limit and Screen Time passcode immediately. You can edit these settings at any time using a Screen Time passcode that you create; keep this passcode secret from your child so they can’t edit the settings themselves.

To view your child’s Screen Time usage or edit their settings, go to Settings and open Screen Time. Then tap your child’s name below the header Family.

You’ll see a usage report at the top of the screen. Tap See All Activity for a breakdown of how much time your child spends on each app or each app category. If you activate Include Website Data, you can also see how much time is spent on certain websites in Safari.

Enable Content & Privacy Restrictions

The best parental controls on an iPhone or iPad are under Content & Privacy Restrictions, which you can find in your Screen Time settings. Thanks to Family Sharing, you can remotely edit the restrictions on your child’s device.

  • open Settings > Screen Timer on your iPhone or iPad.
  • Under section Family, tap your child’s name to see their Screen Time settings.
  • Then go to Restrictions Content & Privacy Restrictions by using the switch at the top of the screen.

Most Content & Privacy Restrictions are self-explanatory, but we’ve detailed each section below for full clarity.

iTunes & App Store Purchases

Choose whether you want to allow your child to install or remove apps on their device, and if you want to allow them to make in-app purchases. If Ask to Buy turned on, your child will still need your permission before they can install or buy anything.

If you allow your child to install apps without using Ask to Buy, you must ensure iTunes and App Store purchases Always Require Apple ID password. Otherwise, your child can download the media on their own for a short time after you enter the password.

Allowed Apps

With this setting, you can choose to make iPhone or iPad apps completely disappear from your child’s device. To do so, turn off the toggle next to the apps you don’t want to allow. This is the best way to avoid all temptations and protect your child from potentially harmful apps.

Content Restrictions

Regardless of your child’s actual age, you can choose age ratings and content restrictions for iTunes, App Store, web content, Siri, and Game Center. It may take a while to work through each of these options, but you can configure them however you feel comfortable.


This option can be misleading. Choose to allow Share My Location allows your child to make changes to their location settings. If you choose not to allow Share My Location, your child will not be able to make changes to their location settings.

Keep in mind that choosing not to allow My Location Sharing does not turn off Location Sharing on your child’s device. This just stops your child from being able to change the settings themselves.

Allow Changes

The Allow Changes section allows you to lock certain settings on your child’s device, such as passcodes, accounts, and mobile data settings. You may want to set this option to Don’t Allow to keep your child from logging out of their Child account and creating an adult account to use.

Track Your Child’s Location

Keep track of where your children are with the Location Sharing option in Family Sharing. If your child’s device is set to share their location with you, then you can always find out where they are using the Find My app.

This time, it’s easiest to set up Location Sharing right on your child’s device:

  • Open the app Find My on your child’s iPhone or iPad and open a tab People.
  • Tap Share My Location and enter your Apple ID account to send yourself an invite. Choose for Share Indefinitely.
  • You should now be able to see your child’s location in the Find My app on your own device. You can choose to share your location with them if you want.

To prevent your child from hiding their location in the future, return to Content & Privacy Restrictions above and select Don’t Allow for options Share My Location. This stops your child from editing the Location Sharing settings on their device.

Set Parental Controls on Your Child’s Device

Apple makes it easy to edit your child’s parental controls using Family Sharing from your own device. But each company offers its own way of managing these settings, and they’re not always easy to find.